How To Change Your Outlook When The Going Gets Tough
Guest Contributor | Jan 15, 2018
We’ve all been there. You’re having a bad day or a tough time, and friends and family offer helpful advice, such as taking time for yourself or walking outside for a breath of fresh air. While those things do help, sometimes you can’t always take that moment for yourself or physically step away out of the situation. It’s hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel if your day is filled with worry. So what can you do? Practicing the art of gratitude can help. Seeing all that you do have or all the things that are going right can often give you a fresh perspective. But what if you’re still having a tough time staying positive?
According to Happiness U Founder, Alice Inoue, there is something called a “counter fact”. It’s an approach that can work if you find you’re having a hard time seeing the positive things in life or struggling to have a sense of gratitude for what you do have. If you find yourself saying that you’re having the worst time and it will never get better, or if you’re feeling overwhelmed and can’t seem to get yourself out of that negative space, try thinking of a counter fact.
When you can imagine how the situation could be worse- because it usually can be- then that often helps to put things into perspective.
Thinking of a counter fact is almost the complete opposite of trying to find the positive. Alice explains- “What you do is you imagine a scenario that is worse than what you’re currently experiencing. Take a moment and imagine how whatever you may be going through could be worse.”
When you can imagine how the situation could be worse- because it usually can be- then that often helps to put things into perspective. For example, you could be having a tough time at work and if you ask yourself, ‘What could be worse?’ - the answer may be ‘Well, it would be worse if I didn’t have a job at all.”
By intentionally thinking up the worst case scenario, your brain will start to “release” the stress and respond to that new perspective. You’ll start feeling a sense of relief that maybe it’s not as bad as it could be. Anytime you’re in a situation and you can see how much luckier you are compared to another situation you could be in, you’ll open yourself up to opportunities and success that much faster.
So the next time you are having a rainy day, go ahead and be negative- think about how much more worse it could be. Then let your brain do the rest.